Odysseys of George

Lately, I have been stuck reading a divers blog of his life. His blog name, SeaDemon’s Lair. He freely writes about his life and does well to state his mind to the issue. I have been so stuck to it that I find myself devoid - inability to write. I find myself asking questions about life, happiness, religion, marriage, love,hate, the mind and health.

Many a times, we think that love is all that is needed in a marriage. I must admit, I found out the hard way. Love is important but there are other issues that are equally as important. The saying, “Love will conquer all” to me is utter rubbish after what I had gone through. Love is dynamic. So, dynamic that its’ future is totally based on other variables. And because of this, I can understand when someone tells me that they have lost love or they grew out of love. A good friend of mine, married for 6 years now, told me that she is asking for a divorce because she feels that she loves him no more. She feels she has changed and this changes she underwent has made her feel that despite the obvious fact that he loves her so much, she has lost interest and is depleted of any love towards him.

So, what happened? To really love someone, the variables need to be made constant. These variables once has lost its constant will effect love so greatly. The first of this variable is respect. Respect towards oneself and towards the other is both very important.

If one doesn’t respect oneself one can have neither love nor respect for others.This was a quote by Ayn Rand. Then we have a quote from Sir John Herschel, “Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue.“.

Derived from the Latin respicere, which means “to look back at” or “to look again,” respect is a particular mode of apprehending the object: the person who respects something pays attention to it and perceives it differently from someone who does not and responds to it in light of that perception.

So what is respect? According to Wikipedia, respect is an assumption of good faith and competence in another person or in the whole of oneself. It enables people to work together in a complimentary fashion.

To respect the other is the beginning of the formation of love. John Gray said, “When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.” This is then followed by the next variable - care to guess?

John Wooden
Respect a man, and he will do all the more.

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