As I peruse the blogs, I realised that many wrote about relationships and love. I cannot help but wonder as to how important love is to people. I once wrote about, ” the worst thing in life, is to love and not be loved in return” But is love everything? I once thought it was. I was made wrong and found out the hardest way. For me, the worst thing in life is when love is absent of trust — is there such a thing – can there be love without trust? One day, maybe I will find it in myself to write of my personal experience but till then….

A few weeks ago, I received a call. She was a good friend of mine who was preparing herself for marriage that was planned for that-all-awaited-date, 070707. I was told to keep the date free way months ago. All was well, until a few days prior the call I received, the would-be-husband called her and called off the whole thing. She was devastated. He never answered her calls to clarify. They were together for many years, if not mistaken for almost 7 years.

Many months ago, I stumbled upon a friend of mine who was looking very depressed. I called him out for coffee and the conversation started. He was married for 7 years and on a fine morning was handed a divorce papers by his beloved wife to him. He spent months wondering where he went wrong and despite many confrontations he could not accept it till the divorce proceeding were settled.

Recently, I was talking to this lady, a well to do lady married for also about 7 years now. She was relating to me her unhappiness towards her husband who obviously loves her still. She says she just has fallen out of love for him and now finds him a hindrance. She finds him straddling behind her progressive carrier and not being able to understand her wanting to be totally different person and attitude. She is presently avoiding him totally and is still finding the courage to tell him that she wants out.

Well the number 7 was just of coincidence but these events – well it is common these days but why do someone fall out of love? For me, one of the main reason is the inability to trust your spouse – especially when the trust is about a major issue in one’s life – when you are at the worst situation in life.